Feeling lonely is challenging at any time of year but can feel particularly hard at Christmas time. People might also feel embarrassed to say they’re spending it alone or that they’re feeling lonely, but there’s no shame in these feelings. In fact, the best thing we can do is talk about it.

We can all help lift other people, and ourselves, out of loneliness by reaching out to those around us. Whether it’s making a phone call, sending a text, writing a card, or even chatting to the person standing next to us in the queue, it can all help. Giving the gift of your time to someone else, even for a quick cup of a tea and chat, could be one of the best presents you give this year – all for free.

If you’re feeling lonely yourself and you’re worried about reaching out, the person you contact may be feeling the same as you and your call might be the contact they needed too. We can never be sure of what someone else is going through.

Here are some other things you can do if you’d like to help someone else or if you’re feeling lonely yourself:

• Volunteering is a great way to make connections and meet new people, and to give our time to causes that mean a lot to us. Check out local opportunities and how to get involved.
• Joining a group or club has the double benefit of helping you connect with a hobby you enjoy and with other people. Is there anything you’ve been wanting to try or to start doing again? The New Year could be a good time to begin. The East Sussex Community Information Service (ESCIS) is a great place to start looking for things going on near you. If you know someone who is feeling lonely or isolated, why not invite them along with you or ask if they’d like to join in something you’re already part of.
• Talking openly about loneliness is really important, both to get people talking and to reduce the stigma. Acknowledging how we feel or being a safe space for someone else to turn to with their feelings without fear of judgement can really help.
• Visit the County Council website for suggestions on groups and organisations you can turn to for support and to meet new people if you’re feeling lonely, as well as other ways to help you take care of your mental health: Self-help for good mental health.

Get more tips on how you can help lift someone out of loneliness on the NHS Every Mind Matters website.